| Dec. 14th, 2009 @ 12:25 am this is not a pro/con list for any decision-making purpose |
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Reasons Long-Distance Relationships are Bad:
1. Environmentally irresponsible (frequent 6 hour drives = reprehensible!)
2. Economically unsustainable (gas is INCREDIBLY expensive, plus the feeling of being away from home makes you feel like you're on vacation and ought to act with similar abandon. plus when you're outside of west virginia, you have to buy your fill of good magazines and good ethnic food.)
3. Emotionally fragile (weekend-long chunks of time mean intense emotions are concentrated into a thick and unstable syrup that can change radically in response to the most minuscule of disturbances. plus time spent with the s.o. is so precious that you spend all weekend almost exclusively alone together, which exacerbates the instability of the syrup AND places greater importance on the syrup's state because you have probably really neglected all other relationships in its favor.)
4. Cat neglectful (I leave my cat alone too much)
5. Spatially uprooting (connections to physical places are eroded by living so much of your emotional life in the ether of telephone calls/internet communication/postcards, landscape is increasingly smeared by the experience of excessive driving, spending all of your free time in another place affords you little time to relax into where you actually live and form solid relationships with those around you, all the while not giving you enough time in other place to do the same thing)
6. Physically demanding (sometimes I will stop at a fast food joint during my drives. THERE, I SAID IT. none of my pants fit anymore and i'm almost back to nervous breakdown in ithaca weight and this is despite my new-ish and definitely uncharacteristic commitment to working out regularly and in a non-bullshit way (see previous post for reference as evidence))
Reasons Long-Distance Relationships are Alright or Good:
1. Frequent travel (makes you feel important, feels like a vacation!)
2. Provides a certain level of independence (you aren't constantly hanging out as a couple, you don't develop the dreaded "couple friends" and you can more easily avoid extreme emotional dependence.)
3. Higher Levels of Acceptable Hygiene/Living Space Cleanliness Neglect (clean and shower only on thursdays!) (um. i swear this is different from how I am when in shared-space relationships)
4. Maintained excitement (infinite countdowns!!! also the novelty of physical contact improves those aspects of a relationship.)
5. Get to keep dating Benji. Definitely best. |
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